Tuesday, March 20, 2007

my grandma's wisdom


my grandad, the heartbeat of her life died when i was 5 - she said to me just before she passed away nearly 20 years later that time healed nothing, nothing at all...it just merely numbed

you were right grandma, you were right

I also remember her telling me not to fear the emptiness of life - hard lessons she learned from loss - strange how moments forgotten suddenley re-appear



For my dear friend Ian, whose mum passed away last week

14 comments:

Caroline said...

I'd agree with your grandma.

Sorry for your pain.

The Harbour of Ourselves said...

and i for yours

she was a good woman, wish she was aound now

MJ said...

me too

The Harbour of Ourselves said...

a wise man once said to me that we must sit with pain and listen to it for a while - that can be wonderfully philosophical until you have to do it

always scared said...

I agree with her too....

27 years I've lived with a hurt that doesn't get better...or go away!!

I think thinking time is dangerous! Well...it is for me!

time numbs,enables us to hide, teaches us to pretend...but not always to heal

Caroline said...

I'm being told that I need to face my pain.
I'm not sure the person who is telling me that knows how frightening it feels.
I'd rather face physical pain ten time over than emotional pain.

Anna said...

She is so right.....honest words...

The Harbour of Ourselves said...

i concur - would rather get smashed in the face than face my inner demons and resident pharisees

thanks for your thoughts

Awareness said...

I have been thinking a lot about my Grandma these days too. She passed away only a couple of years ago and was always huge part of my life. Sometimes, I feel her around me...like this week and it's comforting.

She never wore a mask. I miss her.

I'm wondering if sometimes it's best to just get on with living and doing instead of facing those unrelenting inner demons..... easier written than done, because more often at the times when one needs to act and to do are the times when the demons have sucked the marrow out of our energy.


I think your grandma was right.... we learn much from loss. big life lessons, some of which are stark.

thinking of Ian..........

Lizard Princess said...

These are the kinds of things that, for good or bad, link everyone together. We all experience this at sometime.
Nicely executed post esp considering the delicatness of the topic.

bluemountainmama said...

yes, i would agree with your grandma. i don't believe the phrase "time heals all wounds". sometimes i think mine are healed, just because i haven't had to face them or think about them for a while. but then something will trigger the wound and i realize it's still there and fresh.

The Harbour of Ourselves said...

No smile is more beautiful than the one that struggles through tears...

bjk said...

Walking Wounded I think that's what we all are...

The Harbour of Ourselves said...

bjk,
brennan manning once said that in God's kingdom only wounded soldiers can serve....